I was reading this article about introverts and 10 myths about them. A few statements really caught my attention:
Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.
Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.
While I was reading these two statements, I couldn’t help but compare it with another aspect of my life: music.
People know me as a music lover because of my guitar-playing skills. And because I am known as a music lover, whenever I am around a group of people and I have a guitar in my hands, they expect me to play whatever. “Tugtog ka ng Maroon 5!”, “Tugtog ka ng Imago!”, “Kaya mo bang mag Moves Like Jagger dyan?”, “Tugtugin mo yung <insert song here>.” These are just some examples of questions that would be thrown at me during these instances.
Sadly, I don’t know that many songs. I barely know how to play much of the popular songs being asked of me to play, most especially the pop(ular) music of today.
So how it this related to introversion?
I am an introvert, but I never thought that can be applied in music as well.
One of the myths stated was that “Introverts don’t like people”, that we value the friends we have and that we can count the number of close friends we have in one hand. In music, it’s like not knowing many artists.
In relation to that is the idea that we crave an authentic and sincere connection with one person at a time.
When people ask me to play, I can’t play most of what they ask me to. But that doesn’t mean I’m a bad musician. They just simply ask wrongly. I don’t go learning and knowing one or two songs of 50 artists. I’d rather go learning 20 songs per artist, for 5 artists. Like with friendships, I look for a sincere connection with ONE artist at a time.
Ask me to play an Up Dharma Down song and I wouldn’t be able to play one (even if they are popular), but ask me to play an Eraserheads song and I’d be able to play you at least 5 songs.
Introversion is not just a personality thing. It reaches far beyond it, and through musical choices as well. And given the current state of things, I wouldn’t want to change a damn thing about it.